Steps to Cope is designed to support you coping with life with a parent who drinks too much alcohol. It will help you to talk about what life is like for you in that situation, answer any questions you may have, look at how you cope and what things might help you to feel better about your situation, see what supports you have in your life and what additional supports you may like or need to stay safe. Although we can’t stop your parent from drinking, we can help you to take better care of yourself, which may help you to feel better. We hope that by doing this work, that you will realise that you are an incredible person with lots of good points and strengths, and that that will help you to take better care of yourself.
Unfortunately we can’t. That is not the purpose of this work. Your parent has to make this decision for themselves. We are here to support you and to try and help you to take better care of yourself.
Resilience is a big word with a big meaning. Resilience is the word we use when we talk about a person’s ability to “bounce back” after they face difficulties or troubles. It is all about how strong the person feels on the inside to deal with things when life throws difficult problems in their way. Everyone has some levels of resilience. We hope that this work will help you become stronger inside, which will help you to continue to tackle things in a more helpful and safe way.
Yes, there is a whole team of Steps to Cope workers who are available for you to meet with if you wish. You can request to meet them by clicking here. There are also lots of other workers who are trained to be able to support you, maybe even within your local community. Contact us to see if we can link you in with anyone in your area. If we cant, we will happily come to meet you at a time and place that is convenient for you.
Yes, Steps to Cope has been specifically designed for young people aged 11-18. There are lots of other organisations who can support people, who are not in this age group. Check our interactive map, or send us an email to see if we have any suggestions for other help. Remember though that the other person needs to want the help and support too.
This website is very secure and no other young person will be able to see your answers without your permission. Your answers will be seen by the Steps to Cope team, the people who manage the project (ASCERT, Barnardos, SEHSCT and AFINet-UK) the Big Lottery and an independent evaluator. However, they will not be given any information about you that will allow them to find out who you are, where you live, or how to get in touch with you without your permission to do so. There are some times that others will have to know about your answers, that is when we think you may be in danger, are going to hurt yourself or someone else, or when we think you have broken the law. In these cases we will pass on your information to someone else who can support you, like a social worker, or the police.
The website is designed so you can work at your own pace. We have put suggested timings in for answering some of the questions, and have put in lots of opportunity for you to take some time and think about your answers. You can save your work and take breaks as often as you wish. The answers you provided will stay there for you until you are ready to resume the work (So long as you save it before you log out)There are lots of fun games and activities added in throughout the website as well which you can play as often as you wish.
Normally we do not need your parents’ permission to offer you to avail of this support. However, if we feel that you don’t understand the work that we will do together we will need to get permission from someone. We won’t tell your parents about the work that we are doing together unless you ask us to. We will try our hardest to let you know that we will contact your parents/guardian before we do, but sometimes this isn’t possible. We will only contact them if we are worried about you, and only in very important circumstances, like if we feel you may be in danger or about to harm yourself or others, or if we feel that you may have broken a law.
Of course! We realise that just because things may have changed in your life, doesn’t mean that the problem or difficulties have gone away. If it is still something that you are thinking about, are worried about or want to talk about we are more than happy to support you.
Of Course! Its great news that your parent is not drinking at the moment, but we realise that you may still have some concerns and questions that you need to talk about and have answered. Sometimes things might not go back to normal straight away and it can be difficult to know how to feel or what to do with all the confusing emotions you may have. It can help to talk about it, and Steps to Cope are here to listen if you need us to.